Sometimes it feels as if saying that I believe in the Law of Attraction and practice it is a form of me coming out. I imagine people thinking in their head, “Oh man, I always thought that Ben was a reasonable guy, someone with the a level head on his shoulders. I would never have suspected that he’s into this positive thinking woo-woo!”

Perhaps that’s because in the past, I may have thought something similar of someone if they told me they believe that their thoughts can change reality. Well, if I was back at college I would easily have assumed that they just smoked way too much from their homemade bong.

The only reason I believe in it now is because of an amazing class I took back in college. Below is the very reason why I believe in intention manifestation/the Law of Attraction. It’s the reason why I continue to believe in it. Think of this as story time at Creative Courage with hints of a “how to…” post sprinkled throughout.

This story begins during my last semester of college. I just came back from 7 months in China and was coming in half-way through the year. Some of my closest friends had already graduated and my other friends had seemingly scattered. My social life was a little lacking. On top of that, when I did interact with friends, I played the role of therapist each time. Although I may have helped them, it usually left me feeling emotionally unfulfilled.

Then, for a class assignment, I was given a 30 day challenge. The challenge was to choose one area of my in which I wanted to see big changes in. Naturally, I chose my social life.

In the beginning it was difficult to face my loneliness and social difficulties head on. I realized that I was passive in my social life, meaning I tended to let it just happen to me. I also noticed that I would internally time how long I was talking to people for before I put the attention back on them (playing the counselor). These two examples and many others helped me understand my two biggest limiting beliefs about myself:

1. I’m not interesting enough to talk with or about

2. If I proactively go talk to people or hang out with them, they will be weirded out by it and not open to me

At first I was rather hesitant and didn’t know what to do. But then I decided, screw it. These are my last days in college and I’m going to make them my most epic! I then proceeded to read every book and watch every movie relating to intention manifestation and the Law of Attraction. My primary intention and focus for the next 30 days was, “I have emotionally, physically, and playfully fulfilling relationships.”

Emotionally- I have relationships in which I feel comfortable expressing my thoughts and feelings freely. I have people that I trust to occasionally allow attention to be put on me and to listen to me.

Physically- I have some form of physical intimacy everyday, whether they be hugs or…you know, something else =)

Playfully- I have relationships in which I feel comfortable just calling the other person to hang out, do activities with, and watch How I Met Your Mother while eating dinosaur chicken tenders with

I then created the following game plan:

- I took my intention, wrote in bold letters on a separate sheet of paper and pasted it on my mirror

- Before going to bed, upon waking up, whenever entering or leaving the room, and whenever I had a thought in my head, I would repeat the affirmation that I have emotionally, physically, and playfully fulfilling relationships

- The first and last 10 minutes of the day I would repeat this affirmation and visualize it

- I began doing EFT daily and working on my negative thought patterns and fears associated with pursuing my intention

- Everyday I would meditate for 30 minutes and intensely visualize my intention

-I would also write down what was I was doing, what was working, and what wasn’t

Oh yeah, I went nuts with it.

The one strategy that without a doubt made all the difference was intensely visualizing my intention. I would feel it and visualize it with every ounce of my body. I would think and feel as if my intention was already present in my life.

I would think as if I just had a deep and intense conversation with someone, imagine and feel the feelings I would have from having an emotional connection with someone, feel the euphoria of walking across campus with my favorite song on and a huge smile on my face from knowing I have a fantastic social life, the excitement I would have from telling my mentor how every one of my intentions came true, the joy from being able to see my friends and telling them how happy I am from all the different things that are going on my life, etc.

I imagined all of these scenarios as if they already occurred. I did it to the point that I was just overflowing with joy and just felt it in my entire being.

The results were absolutely astounding to me. At first I felt as if I was convincing myself of some grand hoax. I was forcing something that wasn’t there. Once I started feeling my intention, however, things seemed to shift greatly.

The feeling of brimming over with joy and excitement just seemed to create opportunities for me. Having the feelings of what it would be like if my every intention came true not only put me in a good mood but shifted my thought patterns as well. I began thinking as if it were already true.

That is when the strange things started happening. I slowly began to find more fulfillment in my current relationships, more people would be smiling at me (maybe I was smiling at them first), some friends started commenting on how we needed to reconnect or hang out more, I felt more confident joining people for dinner, people started inviting me to dinner, I began inviting friends to just hang out, and opportunities to get to know a girl I was interested in just started popping up all the time! The last one was especially surprising.

At first I didn’t quite believe my intention but the more intensely I felt it and acted as if it were already true, the better I began feeling and thinking and more importantly, the more opportunities and people I started attracting to myself. Then bigger changes started occurring.

I began to reconnect with my roommate, felt more comfortable and playful with friends because of my new found ease, and began to get closer to the girl I was into, Carey. Circus was approaching so I couldn’t devote as much conscious mental effort to my strategies and intentions but for some reason that didn’t seem to be an issue. I felt that all I needed was that initial shove in the right direction and then things just started occurring on their own. I realized that saying affirmations at that point was just like repeating the obvious! It was just telling myself what was about to show or is already present in my life. I loved it!

Not until a week or so after circus was over did I realize that all of my intentions came true! I had an exciting dinner with friends telling them about how great my life was, met with my mentor to excitedly tell her how my intentions came true, and most importantly, found an emotionally, physically, and playfully fulfilling relationship in Carey, the girl that I still love and am with today!

So there it is, my greatest Law of Attraction success. This is the very reason why I believe in it so much. It’s also the reason why I created a website solely devoted to the Law of Attraction for relationships. I really want to share what I learned along the way. (This also happens to be my first ‘muse’!)

So what’s your experience with the Law of Attraction? Any success stories?
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